The Path of Love

The longing to return to the Arms of the Beloved is at the root of every emotion, every desire that we have.

This is inclusive of every romantic notion, every melancholic yearning for a lost or current love, every Bhakti moment at the feet of the Master.

The draw of death and the desire to return to the womb are but misplaced yearnings born of our having forgotten that we are in fact, in every moment One with All Things – that there is no separation.

To truly know this arrests all, as Beauty arrests motion. Remembrance is the most profound of all spiritual practices.

The heart does know, what the head does not.

The Beloved is ever with me and I and the Beloved are One.

Ishq allah ma’bud allah – God is Love, Lover, and Beloved.

This life is indeed The Path of Love.

Be in Love.

Be Love.

Love.

RELATIONAL GEOMETRY

eros & psyche

That complex set of corollaries and theorems that pertain to our relationships.  How our birth family experience impacts our loves, our workplace environments, and our families of choice from nuclear to greater community.  Why and how we fall in love and how we sustain or abandon the Lover.

Relational Geometry is the soft science of seeing relationships through the multiple lenses of codependence, object relations theory, family systems, birth order, projection, and ideas of compensation, the conscious and unconscious, and even Shadow, this side, and the other side.  Of course our relationships are additionally influenced by our temperaments, our spiritual, intellectual, emotional, and instinctual bodies and our capacity for compassion and empathy.

Myers-Briggs testing and pop-psychology references to Mars and Venus draw upon its tenets.  At its furthest extent it might even include religious impulses from Taoism and Buddhism to Non-Duality, from mono-theism to post-modern deconstructionist models for in essence what isn’t contained in Relational Geometry.

Just saying… it is not unlike any other three dimensional systems theory as in all things from micro to macrocosm, from the myopic to the kaleidoscopic – it is all about relationship.  So when your mental health begins to move from comfortable complacence to something a little more ill at ease, be sure to not leave out a careful consideration of the Relational Geometry that has moved through your life.  Be careful to take stock of the present dissonance and patterns of expansion and contraction, holding and release.

And ever bear in mind that All is Love, There is No Separation, and we really are ALL ONE.  <3<3<3

Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship

In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.

Be Conscious at Every Breath

I received many years ago via oral transmission that the first rule of the Khwajagan is to be “Present at Every Breath”. When I first heard it, I did not know how to spell Khwajagan, who the Khwajagan were, or how to verify the information. Now with the advent of Google, its spell check, and memory of the phrase, I have discovered not only who the Khawjagan are purported to be [a chain of Central Asian Naqshbandi Sufi Masters from the 10th to the 16th century], who they influenced [Gurdjieff’s ‘Fourth Way’ originated with the Khwajagan], but some of their other rules. Not unlike other oral traditions that are hitting the internet this is not readily verifiable, but the rules do seem to pass the litmus test for “Way Above Average”.

Find the first and the other listed rules of the Khwajagan here.

It’s Not Me, It’s You: How to End a Friendship

Though I am in the change business, I am quite sure that the fundamental ourselves does not. As wisdom is the side effect of our years we get better acquainted with who we are, what we need, and how to speak to these insights. This NY Times article talks from this reference point and the somewhat awkward phenomenon of ending friendships that no longer serve even in this Facebook era.

Go to this great article by clicking here.

Where Have All the Wise Men Gone?

Wisdom can be the side effect of our years, though it may not be necessarily so.

Huffington Post online has put up an article by Michael Meade, a renowned storyteller, author, and scholar of mythology, anthropology, and psychology.  He combines hypnotic storytelling, street-savvy perceptiveness, and spellbinding interpretations of ancient myths with a deep knowledge of cross-cultural rituals.

“Elders vs. Olders” is a phrase coined in “Where Have All the Wise Men Gone?“, which deserves a good look see. Let me know what you think.

Access this article by clicking here.