RELATIONAL GEOMETRY

eros & psyche

That complex set of corollaries and theorems that pertain to our relationships.  How our birth family experience impacts our loves, our workplace environments, and our families of choice from nuclear to greater community.  Why and how we fall in love and how we sustain or abandon the Lover.

Relational Geometry is the soft science of seeing relationships through the multiple lenses of codependence, object relations theory, family systems, birth order, projection, and ideas of compensation, the conscious and unconscious, and even Shadow, this side, and the other side.  Of course our relationships are additionally influenced by our temperaments, our spiritual, intellectual, emotional, and instinctual bodies and our capacity for compassion and empathy.

Myers-Briggs testing and pop-psychology references to Mars and Venus draw upon its tenets.  At its furthest extent it might even include religious impulses from Taoism and Buddhism to Non-Duality, from mono-theism to post-modern deconstructionist models for in essence what isn’t contained in Relational Geometry.

Just saying… it is not unlike any other three dimensional systems theory as in all things from micro to macrocosm, from the myopic to the kaleidoscopic – it is all about relationship.  So when your mental health begins to move from comfortable complacence to something a little more ill at ease, be sure to not leave out a careful consideration of the Relational Geometry that has moved through your life.  Be careful to take stock of the present dissonance and patterns of expansion and contraction, holding and release.

And ever bear in mind that All is Love, There is No Separation, and we really are ALL ONE.  <3<3<3

MENTAL HEALTH ADVANCE DIRECTIVES A User Guide for Maine Consumers

You can have it any way your want it.  Know your rights.  If you are concerned about your psychiatric care during a hospitalization, then you should familiarize yourself with this work.  Click the cover of the booklet below to explore or click here.

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Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship

In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.

Keep the RED BOOK open

The Red Book

It is important to keep your Red Book open. Find the medium for your madness and keep it going. And of course if you happen to have a copy of the RED BOOK, then by all means keep it open for all to see. What better way to speak of the importance of dreams, of individuation, of creative imagination… and then share the results. Let us see your madness in whatever small doses you feel safe in sharing it. Where does your passion lie and where is the record of this aliveness? Let’s have a look, for indeed anything else we have to talk about is just so unimportant or stepping stones to that which really holds our attention.

Our Media, Ourselves: Are We Headed For A Matrix?

Design Within Reach? The cool sterility of 2001: A Space Odyssey is just one example of how pop culture expresses an anxiety that's seemingly about technology, but may be as old as time.

An incredible audio report from All Things Considered on NPR by Bob Mondello.  Man, who traditionally knows himself by his artifacts, is at risk of loosing it all as we sacrifice our books and information to off site servers we call “clouds”.  This provocative piece of editorial journalism is worth a listen.  Go here to hear it and review the transcription.

Be Conscious at Every Breath

I received many years ago via oral transmission that the first rule of the Khwajagan is to be “Present at Every Breath”. When I first heard it, I did not know how to spell Khwajagan, who the Khwajagan were, or how to verify the information. Now with the advent of Google, its spell check, and memory of the phrase, I have discovered not only who the Khawjagan are purported to be [a chain of Central Asian Naqshbandi Sufi Masters from the 10th to the 16th century], who they influenced [Gurdjieff’s ‘Fourth Way’ originated with the Khwajagan], but some of their other rules. Not unlike other oral traditions that are hitting the internet this is not readily verifiable, but the rules do seem to pass the litmus test for “Way Above Average”.

Find the first and the other listed rules of the Khwajagan here.

Married, with Infidelities–Dan Savage on the Virtues of Infidelity

What is the benefit of marriage? … stability.  The rest is negotiable.

New York Times contributor, Mark Oppenheimer, introduces us to the work of Dan Savage who has much to say about the contemporary outer limits of committed relationship.

Go here and learn the advantages of good, giving, and game and so much more.