Helping Unhappy Couples

An array of subtle, and often-misunderstood, mental, physical and emotional factors that can upset the equilibrium of even the happiest marriages.

Now we have consulted marriage counselors and geriatricians to find out what caregivers — either the grown children of the couple, or one of the spouses involved– can do to help restore peace and balance to these relationships. The experts consulted uniformly agreed that even older people can at least take steps to reduce tensions and improve their relationship, even if they cannot actually change. (Really, who can, at any age?)

This article is full of cogent advise that is good for couples at any age and some specifically for the couple in their golden years.  For the entire New York Times article by Susan Seliger go here.

The Best Strategy for Reducing Stress – You have two choices: Either change the reality around you or change your expectations.

Monkey Knot

Peter Bregman, the author of 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done, due out in September, and Point B: A Short Guide to Leading a Big Change, has a great article on Psychology Today Online.  Herein he explains the dissonance between anticipations and expectations as the greatest source of anxiety and stress.  To read the article go here.

Our Media, Ourselves: Are We Headed For A Matrix?

Design Within Reach? The cool sterility of 2001: A Space Odyssey is just one example of how pop culture expresses an anxiety that's seemingly about technology, but may be as old as time.

An incredible audio report from All Things Considered on NPR by Bob Mondello.  Man, who traditionally knows himself by his artifacts, is at risk of loosing it all as we sacrifice our books and information to off site servers we call “clouds”.  This provocative piece of editorial journalism is worth a listen.  Go here to hear it and review the transcription.